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  • 作者:D西R梦13 时间:2019-10-10 09:50
    感觉我应该适合读书。
    考试和真正的工作有区别。考试要在规定的时间答完会促使人迅速下决定,而且有时候不自信但靠运气猜中了考官也看不到你的心理。
    工作对于有拖延症下不了决定的人就不好,能拖就拖,工作就做不好,自信心在工作中被领导看到了就会影响对工作的评判,如果不自信,还会恶性循环。
    所以不同性格的人适合不同的工种。 | 959楼 | | | | |
    作者:D西R梦13 时间:2019-10-10 10:05
    今天下午下班路上突然发现自己好轻松,虽然今天工作特别忙特别累,想着是J没再联系我,这让我很感谢他的不联系之恩,让我不再为他胡思乱想。也许只是因为自己工作忙到没空想他。 | 960楼 | | | | |
    作者:D西R梦13 时间:2019-10-10 19:42
    公司的做事方针里有一条是A deal is a good one only when it is good for both parties.
    我觉得为人也是一样,要双赢,皆大欢喜,生意/情谊才能长长久久。
    take的时候要想想我能give什么。 | 961楼 | | | | |
    作者:D西R梦13 时间:2019-10-10 23:50
    办公室有一位中年同事,
    他是工程师,MBA,部门经理。
    因为工作原因,他需要见客户,所以每天都是西装革履,更夸张的是西装里放pocket square的那种。
    而我注意到他,除了他需要经常到我邻座找他的手下,另一个原因是这是我中年危机的表现。呵呵 | 962楼 | | | | |
    作者:D西R梦13 时间:2019-10-11 00:46
    阳光明媚,有风,出去穿个风衣正合适。
    散步必备墨镜和太阳帽,算是我的招牌了。
    今天还特意戴了耳机,边听边走,同学和她相好的歌,被我'盗'来听,'我要你','我变了我没变'。
    不知是外面蓝天白云天气好让我开心还是因为歌,一个人的时空,还是很有幸福感的。
    有没有J我都要好好的。
    习惯了这样的没有期望,好像也就那样了。人生中大家都是匆匆过客,哪能让某个人常驻心间?
    我一样,他也一样。
    没有什么悲喜了。 | 963楼 | | | | |
    作者:D西R梦13 时间:2019-10-11 07:30
    知道女儿今年选择了regular class的英语,具体原因记不太清楚了(好像是不需要选gifted class的,得高分的几率大)。
    每年学校都会通知家长和学生还在不在gifted class。
    因为女儿比较学霸,我想都没想过她不会在gifted class。
    今天收到学校的评估,被安排到regular class with withdrawal assistance。查了一下这个的解释,就是少于一半的时间是特殊指导了。
    A regular class with withdrawal assistance where the student is placed in a regular class and receives instruction outside the classroom, for less than 50 per cent of the school day, from a qualified special education teacher.
    等女儿回来问一下什么情况。
    如果真的是退步了,看来需要控制一下她看手机的时间了。
    关键一年,不能放松呢。
    发现以前想当然的觉得女儿应该是高尖学生,从来都不掩饰她在gifted class,也没觉得没上gifted class学生家长的感受。
    对女儿想当然的期望高。
    这次这个信件是个警醒,第一我太忽视她的学习了。第二就是从心理上需要去调整有可能女儿不是那么好的结果。
    霸总天天看那么晚的电视,本来女儿一开学后自己规定都是9点多就睡觉,霸总一来天天不知道深更半夜几点才睡,为了这个睡觉时间曾经跟霸总说过让他早一点睡不要影响孩子,但他完全不理我的建议,非要一意孤行(写到这,我就忍不住生气,他说我让他干嘛他偏不干,我觉得他这点儿很不成熟,其他地方倒是很理智)。
    女儿的学习从来都不跟他说,是因为霸总不懂帮不了忙,就是得奖了我会在群里告诉一下他,有时候真的没耐心给他解释来龙去脉,霸总陪女儿成长这门课缺的太多了。
    提起这些我也是怨声载道,真的是忍不住想吐槽。
    越说越不喜欢霸总,算了,这里吐吐就算了。现实生活中还得鼓励大家一起好好生活不是,抱怨起不了好的作用。
    只能身体力行,让孩子有个安心学习的环境,为她以后有个顺利的人生打下好的基础,这是为人父母最基本的义务。
    周一就是感恩节了,内心也真的需要体会到对别人的付出而发自内心的真诚感谢,不能想当然的认为应该得到。
    | 964楼 | | | | |
    作者:D西R梦13 时间:2019-10-11 10:07
    真的是我多虑了,果然是因为女儿这学期只有两门是gifted class可以选,一门数学一门英语,她只要选一门数学是gifted 就行,英语选的是regular class。而且这个通知不需要回执。
    而我却乖乖的签了我的名字等女儿拿回学校呢。女儿说,去年的她就已经没交会回学校了。
    我这当妈的,够稀里糊涂。笑cry. | 965楼 | | | | |
    作者:D西R梦13 时间:2019-10-11 10:20
    老调重弹,看看Sam Altman(34岁的Y combinator CEO,传说中的高富帅)说的

    1) Never put your family, friends, or significant other low on your priority list. Prefer a handful of truly close friends to a hundred acquaintances. Don’t lose touch with old friends. Occasionally stay up until the sun rises talking to people. Have parties.

    2) Life is not a dress rehearsal—this is probably it. Make it count. Time is extremely limited and goes by fast. Do what makes you happy and fulfilled—few people get remembered hundreds of years after they die anyway. Don’t do stuff that doesn’t make you happy (this happens most often when other people want you to do something). Don’t spend time trying to maintain relationships with people you don’t like, and cut negative people out of your life. Negativity is really bad. Don’t let yourself make excuses for not doing the things you want to do.

    3) How to succeed: pick the right thing to do (this is critical and usually ignored), focus, believe in yourself (especially when others tell you it’s not going to work), develop personal connections with people that will help you, learn to identify talented people, and work hard. It’s hard to identify what to work on because original thought is hard.

    4) On work: it’s difficult to do a great job on work you don’t care about. And it’s hard to be totally happy/fulfilled in life if you don’t like what you do for your work. Work very hard—a surprising number of people will be offended that you choose to work hard—but not so hard that the rest of your life passes you by. Aim to be the best in the world at whatever you do professionally. Even if you miss, you’ll probably end up in a pretty good place. Figure out your own productivity system—don’t waste time being unorganized, working at suboptimal times, etc. Don’t be afraid to take some career risks, especially early on. Most people pick their career fairly randomly—really think hard about what you like, what fields are going to be successful, and try to talk to people in those fields.

    5) On money: Whether or not money can buy happiness, it can buy freedom, and that’s a big deal. Also, lack of money is very stressful. In almost all ways, having enough money so that you don’t stress about paying rent does more to change your wellbeing than having enough money to buy your own jet. Making money is often more fun than spending it, though I personally have never regretted money I’ve spent on friends, new experiences, saving time, travel, and causes I believe in.

    6) Talk to people more. Read more long content and less tweets. Watch less TV. Spend less time on the Internet.

    7) Don’t waste time. Most people waste most of their time, especially in business.

    8) Don’t let yourself get pushed around. As Paul Graham once said to me, “People can become formidable, but it’s hard to predict who”. (There is a big difference between confident and arrogant. Aim for the former, obviously.)

    9) Have clear goals for yourself every day, every year, and every decade.

    10) However, as valuable as planning is, if a great opportunity comes along you should take it. Don’t be afraid to do something slightly reckless. One of the benefits of working hard is that good opportunities will come along, but it’s still up to you to jump on them when they do.

    11) Go out of your way to be around smart, interesting, ambitious people. Work for them and hire them (in fact, one of the most satisfying parts of work is forging deep relationships with really good people). Try to spend time with people who are either among the best in the world at what they do or extremely promising but totally unknown. It really is true that you become an average of the people you spend the most time with.

    12) Minimize your own cognitive load from distracting things that don’t really matter. It’s hard to overstate how important this is, and how bad most people are at it. Get rid of distractions in your life. Develop very strong ways to avoid letting crap you don’t like doing pile up and take your mental cycles, especially in your work life.

    13) Keep your personal burn rate low. This alone will give you a lot of opportunities in life.

    14) Summers are the best.

    15) Don’t worry so much. Things in life are rarely as risky as they seem. Most people are too risk-averse, and so most advice is biased too much towards conservative paths.

    16) Ask for what you want.

    17) If you think you’re going to regret not doing something, you should probably do it. Regret is the worst, and most people regret far more things they didn’t do than things they did do. When in doubt, kiss the boy/girl.

    18) Exercise. Eat well. Sleep. Get out into nature with some regularity.

    19) Go out of your way to help people. Few things in life are as satisfying. Be nice to strangers. Be nice even when it doesn’t matter.

    20) Youth is a really great thing. Don’t waste it. In fact, in your 20s, I think it’s ok to take a “Give me financial discipline, but not just yet” attitude. All the money in the world will never get back time that passed you by.

    21) Tell your parents you love them more often. Go home and visit as often as you can.

    22) This too shall pass.

    23) Learn voraciously.

    24) Do new things often. This seems to be really important. Not only does doing new things seem to slow down the perception of time, increase happiness, and keep life interesting, but it seems to prevent people from calcifying in the ways that they think. Aim to do something big, new, and risky every year in your personal and professional life.

    25) Remember how intensely you loved your boyfriend/girlfriend when you were a teenager? Love him/her that intensely now. Remember how excited and happy you got about stuff as a kid? Get that excited and happy now.

    26) Don’t screw people and don’t burn bridges. Pick your battles carefully.

    27) Forgive people.

    28) Don’t chase status. Status without substance doesn’t work for long and is unfulfilling.

    29) Most things are ok in moderation. Almost nothing is ok in extreme amounts.

    30) Existential angst is part of life. It is particularly noticeable around major life events or just after major career milestones. It seems to particularly affect smart, ambitious people. I think one of the reasons some people work so hard is so they don’t have to spend too much time thinking about this. Nothing is wrong with you for feeling this way; you are not alone.

    31) Be grateful and keep problems in perspective. Don’t complain too much. Don’t hate other people’s success (but remember that some people will hate your success, and you have to learn to ignore it).

    32) Be a doer, not a talker.

    33) Given enough time, it is possible to adjust to almost anything, good or bad. Humans are remarkable at this.

    34) Think for a few seconds before you act. Think for a few minutes if you’re angry.

    35) Don’t judge other people too quickly. You never know their whole story and why they did or didn’t do something. Be empathetic.

    36) The days are long but the decades are short. | 966楼 | | | | |
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